Escapism - A dangerous ‘way-out’ of Emotional Pain by Life Coach
Escapism as the word suggests is the act of seeking to escape from reality or everyday life by engaging in activities or behaviors that provide distraction or relief from unpleasant or undesirable circumstances. More often than not it is some deep seated early childhood trauma or sometimes in early adulthood too. This trauma is emotionally painful and often translating even to physical pain. And many times defines even our erratic mindset and behavior.
The Mind uses ‘escapism’ as a means to overcome this pain. Because when engaged in these activities there is some amount of temporary relief. Obviously these activities do not address the underlying issues that are causing the pain and distress; and by virtue of the activity itself it contributes to negative outcomes. The severity or the outcome depends on extent and excessiveness of the activity used as a primary coping mechanism.
Escapism of deep-seated trauma can manifest in a variety of ways. Some common signs, symptoms and behavior include:
Avoiding activities or places that remind you of the trauma
Difficulty concentrating or remembering details of the trauma
Using substances, such as alcohol or drugs, to cope with feelings related to the trauma and veering towards or already in addiction
Engaging in risky or self-destructive behaviors- self-mutilation, risky adventures, driving recklessly, extra-marital affairs, deviant sexual practices
Difficulty maintaining relationships or a sense of trust in others
Persistent feelings of hopelessness or despair
Difficulty sleeping or experiencing recurrent nightmares
Feeling Lonely despite amidst friends and loved ones.
Feeling detached from others or emotionally numb
Over Dependent on Social Media
Workaholic Behavior in the workplace
Being ‘Control Freak’
‘Power Crazy"‘ and ‘Money Minded’ Personality
It's important to note that these symptoms can be a normal part of the healing process, but if they persist or significantly impact your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek support from a Life Coach, Psychologist or any other mental health professional depending on the severity of the situation. It's important to find healthy ways to cope with difficult emotions and challenges in life rather than relying on escapist behaviors as a long-term solution. Reach out before it is too late.
