I understand that feeling unhappy and not reaching your life goals when you turn 30 can be quite frustrating. Somehow despite your best efforts this has not happened. Worse still your best friend and colleagues have achieved their goals and are probably on their way.

As a life coach, I can offer you guidance and support to help you navigate this situation and work towards a more fulfilling life. Here are some steps we can take together:

1. Reflect on your goals: Take some time to reflect on your life goals and what truly matters to you. Are your goals still aligned with your values and aspirations? If not, it might be time to reassess and redefine them. Perhaps you are over or aiming too high? Nevertheless a review of your Goals is a good place to start.

2. Break down your goals: Once you have a clear understanding of your goals, break them down into smaller, manageable steps. This will make them less overwhelming and more achievable. This also helps with overcoming being overwhelmed with the gig tasks ahead.

3. Create an action plan: Review your Plan if not it is time to develop a detailed action plan that outlines the specific tasks and milestones needed to reach your goals. Set realistic deadlines and hold yourself accountable to follow through. Incorporate Plan Bs in case plan A is failing.

4. Seek support: Consider reaching out to mentors, friends, or family members who can provide guidance, encouragement, and accountability. Additionally, working with a life coach or therapist can provide you with professional guidance tailored to your specific needs. You could be carrying mental blocks or emotional luggage that prevents you from overcoming Fear and Anxiety to take action. A Life Coach cum Therapist could certainly help.

5. Embrace continuous learning: Invest in your personal growth and development by seeking new knowledge and skills related to your goals. Attend workshops, read books, or enroll in courses that can enhance your abilities and broaden your perspective. Identify what knowledge you need and never stop till you acquire it.

6. Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Make sure to prioritize self-care activities such as exercise, healthy eating, quality sleep, and relaxation techniques. These practices will help you maintain balance and resilience throughout your journey. If you are ‘using’ or hiding behind self denial tactics or even imbibing alcohol you need to stop and get real. Clear your mind and that only happens with a healthy lifestyle of good sleep, diet and exercise.

7. Stay positive and flexible: Remember that setbacks and challenges are a natural part of any journey. Stay optimistic, maintain a growth mindset, and be willing to adapt your plans if needed. Use setbacks as opportunities for learning and growth. While it is not easy to be consistently positive perhaps that is a good reason to engage a Life Coach who can keep you motivated and on track.

8. Celebrate progress: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements along the way, even the small ones. Recognizing your progress will help you stay motivated and build momentum towards your goals. And don’t forget to give gratitude to the Universe. Any small achievement even completing the tasks without achieving end result is a reason to celebrate. But caution must be made in celebrating in healthy manner. An alcoholic binge is definitely not an ideal celebration.

Remember, change takes time and effort - Beleive in yourself. Overcome your negative emotional luggage and be open to support and help from anyone the Universe sends your way. Be patient with yourself, stay committed, and keep taking consistent action. With dedication and the right mindset, you can make progress towards your life goals and create a more fulfilling life.

Last but not least, there are 2 components to anything you experience in your Life - one is the external physical and real problem out there. The second is your internal mental reaction or mental experience of the problem. The first physical problem you may or may not overcome and it is NOT in your control most times. The second internal mental component is very much within your Control. So act on that second Mental component to increase your chances of Success.

All the Best from your friendly Life Coach Dr. M