Denial is a defense mechanism that many people use to protect themselves from difficult emotions and situations. It is a psychological process in which an individual refuses to accept or acknowledge the reality of a particular situation or event. Often when approached they ‘Deny being in Denial’.

Denial can manifest in different ways, from denying the existence of a problem to minimizing its severity or impact. While denial may provide temporary relief, it can also have negative consequences, such as delaying necessary action or preventing personal growth and healing.

So, why do people live in denial?

1) Fear of the unknown

One reason why people live in denial is the fear of the unknown. Facing an uncomfortable truth or a challenging situation can be scary, especially if it means stepping outside of one's comfort zone. In some cases, people may prefer to cling to familiar patterns or routines, even if they are unhealthy or counterproductive, rather than risk the uncertainty of change.

2) Protecting one's self-image

Another reason why people live in denial is to protect their self-image. Admitting a mistake or a flaw can be difficult, especially if it threatens one's sense of self-worth or competence. Denial can serve as a way to avoid feelings of shame or guilt and to maintain a positive self-image like - “I am OK; I am Good”!

3) Social pressure and stigma

In some cases, people may live in denial because of social pressure or stigma associated with a particular issue. For example, someone struggling with substance abuse may deny their addiction to avoid the negative labels of an addict and judgments associated with it. Similarly, a person who has experienced trauma may deny the impact of the event to avoid being labeled as a victim or being perceived as weak. A good example of PTSD.

4) Lack of awareness or understanding

Sometimes, people may live in denial simply because they lack awareness or understanding of a particular issue. For example, a person who has never experienced depression may not recognize the symptoms or may dismiss them as a temporary mood swing. In other cases, people may lack the knowledge or resources to address a problem effectively and may resort to denial as a coping mechanism.

5) The consequences and pain of Changing

Denial may provide temporary relief from having to move out of the comfort zone and taking action that maybe difficult or painful. Denial is mechanism to cope with Change that is difficult and going against your mental mindset. For example, someone struggling with addiction may delay seeking treatment because they know the withdrawal symptoms are painful and difficult. Similarly, someone in an unhealthy and toxic relationship may deny the severity of the issue because the consequences of being single and lonely is too scary. And to seek out a new partner is not something they can endure yet again.

Knowing these reason and behavior is important because you maybe a victim of Denial. Being is Denial is just delaying the inevitable. In addition, denial can also cause emotional and psychological distress. Constantly denying the reality of a situation can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and helplessness. It can also strain relationships with others, who may become frustrated or concerned about the individual's well-being.

Breaking through denial

Breaking through denial requires courage, honesty, and a willingness to face difficult emotions and situations. It may involve seeking support from a Life Coach or trusted friends /family members. Or even speaking with a Psychologist, therapist or counselor, or joining a support group. By acknowledging and accepting the reality of a situation, individuals can begin to take meaningful steps towards healing and personal growth.

In conclusion, living in denial is a common defense mechanism that can have negative consequences in the long run. Understanding the reasons behind denial, as well as its potential consequences is the first step towards Change.

Everyone deserves a happy and fulfilling life. But often we self-sabotage ourselves by Living in Denial.